Successful Relationships
Discussing how to establish effective communications and improve on relationships in this episode of The Cure, where host Aimee Cabo and guest Corine La Font dive into the topic.
Corine La Font has been a Public Relations practitioner for the past 10 years. While living in Jamaica for 21 years she established herself being a Columnist with the Jamaica Gleaner, a national daily newspaper, as well as offering professional services in Publishing and digital marketing for clients globally. When moved to Trinidad established her company Lafont and associates. Lafontandassociates.com
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HOSTS:
Aimee Cabo Nikolov is a Cuban American who has lived most of her life in Miami. After many years of healing, finding love, raising a family and evolving her relationship with God, Aimee’s true grit and courage led her to pen an honest, thought-provoking memoir. Years of abuse became overshadowed with years of happiness and unconditional love. Now Aimee is the president of IMIC Research, a medical research company, a transformational speaker, syndicated radio host and focused on helping others. You can read more about Aimee by visiting her website.
Dr. Boris Nikolov is the CEO of Neuroscience Clinic. You can read more about Dr. Nikolov and the work he is doing by visiting his website.
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That was I’m yours by Jason Rob. There are times we try to figure it out only to discover our humanity. It can put into perspective our deceptions and our vanity. If pleasing, God is what we aim to do. We will succeed, never fail. It’s our virtue provided to us all practiced by the few God says I’m yours and we are his it’s it isn’t complicated. It’s heaven’s kiss. It’s our fate. Let’s open our eyes and be set free. The future. No one can foresee don’t compromise yourself or believe a lie for God.
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There is no limit to this guys. Once with God, his children possible prosper and always rise. Luke, 2334, Jesus said, father, forgive them for, they do not know what they are doing. We are talking to Corinne. LaFond about successful relationships and effective communication green. We, we spoke at some length about relationship with others and the people that we love. And I wanted to explore a little bit about relationship with the world around us.
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The friends that we keep, is it, how can we recognize and avoid toxic friends? Can we make a difference? Should we keep them around or will it cause more harm than good?
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Well, unfortunately we lost the video with Corinne. Sorry, Courtney. If you can try to reconnect, that’d be great with the video, but anyway, we have the audio still.
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Yeah. I am trying to connect with a video several times and I’m not there yet.
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So how about that? Let’s talk that.
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Yeah. All right. So thank you for that question in me, toxic, people have no place in your life. If you decide you want never wrong, your life is not going to be one of joy and bliss, which is what God means for you and move to the one for yourself. How do you deal with persons that are toxic? Or how do you recognize, you know, it within the fact that you asked us question,
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Every loser,
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Let’s try again.
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Okay. You can talk if you want meanwhile, about relationships
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And we, we don’t have her anymore. Not a video.
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Well, while I get Carla, can I say to give you, give us your 2 cents?
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We were talking about toxic friends. I asked that question because just recently I had to get rid of most of my past friends. I try to make a difference, but it only costs more harm than good. So I think that Corrine has a point and there comes a point in time where you just have to realize what’s good for you and what’s not. And if, if you want to walk and right to sadness and you want to do the right thing and you want to set a good example, you have to keep in good company.
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And otherwise, while you’re trying to make a difference and make things better, you’re really playing with fire and you’re likely to get burned. So do we have her back?
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Did they, did your friends know Amy, that you were trying to help them to not be toxic?
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Well, there is, there is friends that are toxic and sometimes we don’t realize it. We think it’s all fun and games and we’re doing the right thing. Then we get close to God and we think we see things clear and we’re like, wait a second. This isn’t right. This isn’t me. We go back to who we used to be before we learned all the bad. Okay.
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Yeah. Let, let me connect you back to the radio.
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I think we’re getting her back. Nothing. Thank you.
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You’re welcome. Okay. So we’re going to have Korean very soon. That’s the tricks of modern communications pickpockets. Okay. Okay. So Corinne. Do you hear us green?
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I guess we don’t have her yet. No, we
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Do. We do. Oh, we do.
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Oh, there she is. And we have video too. Yay. Corinne. Your back is bigger. Yes. Got it.
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I mean, so we were saying, don’t try to hang around toxic relationships thinking you can be the good influence because trust me you’ll lose. I’ve been there. Done that.
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No, you don’t need them. There’s no space. No, no, no. Yes. We all do. Let me tell you it’s hard, but it’s the best way to learn it. Only to keep repeating the same thing. It only took <inaudible> for those of us who are very loyal. Oh yes. Oh yes. Yes. I’m let me tell you. People love people who are loyal so that they could continue to abuse you or manipulate you. You know,
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I can only do that for so long green before God steps in. They can only do that for so long. So God is good. Always. I’d rather be alone than in bed. Goodbye. I’m never alone that great company. And that’s our father who loves and adores his greatly. And there’s no better feeling that as much as God loves me, he loves everyone else. The same too, which is not the same. If you’re a child with parents, there’s a different kind of love. Just like we don’t understand. We can’t imagine God’s love.
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So
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Yeah. Yeah.
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E here, here. It’s a good question, Corinne, because you’re a very colorful person. I’m having a lot of fun with you. What are, what are, what are, what are good aspects or, Oh, what is a key to a long term relationship successful? I know, I know. I know. Oh, you do. I do, please, please enlighten me because I’m still trying to figure that out. I know it may only need say yes and agree. Oh, but wait.
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Oh, just the mom’s perspective. Any what’s the mindset that I would see probably says the same thing. It’s like, just say yes to everything. Yes. Say yes, but that’s the male perspective and that’s okay. That works too. But we pick up on that Boris man. We know what you guys are up to. Yeah.
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And how do we know how they really feel? Is that good communication or is that a peacemaker please inform us.
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Well, I think, I think I don’t don’t tell anybody. I said it. Okay.
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Everybody close your eyes here, everybody that’s listening. Close your ears. Yes. Go ahead.
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Right. Don’t tell anyone I said this. Okay. Because I will say I I’ve never said it as a man and then say yes to everything. You just sang, honey. Yay. And you, and you accepted, you accepted depending on what it is that you want. But you know, if you find that there’s, you know, you need more or you, you want to make sure that there’s a little balance at times, you know, you can say, Hey honey, I think it would be good if we do so. And so if we do whatever, but there are times girl check the yes.
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Why not? If it brings peace, who cares? Anyhow. So, but what did I say? Make, pretend, you know, the song, you know? But if, if the relationship struggling, what kind of things could help a relationship that’s struggling and I’m not talking about flowers. They die. Yeah. And it’s what the typical abuser does. Okay.
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Yeah. That’s another good idea learned.
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So give me something unique, struggling. Yes.
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Well, I don’t know if there’s something unique, if something is struggling and it reaches to that point, it needs to say that you’re really at a point that you are loaded professor and you reach a point of struggling. You should have known that from the beginning.
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Okay. Let’s continue after the break. Sorry. Corinne. Let’s call it on laptop. We would love to hear from you also, if anybody is listening to us, tell us your question to ask us a question about relationship. One eight, six, six 34 three one eight six, six 34 throats. Stay with us, please. We’ll be right back with me.
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I’m not French. That is differentiating, but
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It’s always your M in certain people call you. That sounds like a letter. Yeah. It’s faster.
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Some that just played was Lovebug by Jonah’s brothers. I’m speechless. I thought I knew, love that. Isn’t until I got to really know our heavenly father from above, I can still struggle every day and live on the edge, but it’s still amazing. Loving God is my solemn pledge. Speechless. I’m also when things go wrong, grateful. Always not because of God. I remained strong. I was hit with the greatest love bug around when God showed me the roads from the day I was found, I only felt complete when discovering that the missing part of me was the one who created us sacrifice this luck life to redeem us and set us free.
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We are talking to Corinne. LaFont about success for relationships and communications. And in look 2334 in your shirt, the shirt that’s Oh, yes. Jesus said father, forgive them for, they do not know what they’re doing. Yep. God is so good. So please forgive me. I always forget. Cool. Corrine is having a spiritual relationship with a higher,
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Okay. About the struggling with the sec.
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I covered the certain relationships. So if you’re struggling in a relationship, how do you know whether you should keep trying? You should get going or it’s not worth it anymore? What relationships are worth continuing? When do you feel? There’s no longer reason to communicate?
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Hmm. Very good question.
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When you find that the investment is not valid, so let’s say I’m in a relationship with Barbara for this, the enemy, but that’s for this moment, allow me to be in a relationship. So that’s the, I’m in a relationship as far as, and I am investing more in making the relationship work done here. You need to cut your losses. You’re giving more of yourself than the other person is willing to do that. Love to make a decision there. And then are you still going to no, my idea that is not love. It must be equitable. It must be balanced reciprocal, but equally your reciprocal.
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Right? But the fact that you’re struggling clearly there is something. Yeah, it has to be a balance. I am giving as much as you are giving as much as I am. Yeah.
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If one is always forgiving and the other one does barely needs to be forgiven.
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No, no, it doesn’t work like that. Not for me. No, no, no, no, no, no. Which means that the other person is saying you are to blame. The other person is to blame all the time and you have to keep the place that’s toxic. Get out.
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Not bad, not good, but you know, there’s more to it though.
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I have a, I want to share something here that somebody just sent to me, a very good friend of mine. I’m going to ask you about credit for sharing his own money. The former prime minister’s wife, he’s a good friend of mine. And she sent me this image on my phone. Don’t treat people the way they treat. You treat people the way God sees you. That’s a very good ruler restaurants. So you don’t treat people the way the streets. You <inaudible> treat yourself, people the way <inaudible>,
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That’s an excellent point that you make. You know how many times my Lord, I can’t even count that God has had to forgive me, but I’ve never had to forgive him yet. He doesn’t give up on me. So maybe there’s exceptions to the room when the good outweighs the bad
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We, we, we were made in his image. We can try to be like him. Right? We can emulate.
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Yeah. Yeah. But it takes work. We are not, we are not perfect. We are in the process of perfection here on disease. And we may not achieve perfection. He understood because I process and we have to strive. We have to try, but just call me to the store and going all in with an egotistic attitude. And it cannot mean that it cannot mean that I am trying and forests. Isn’t trying. And I expect you to be trying all the time. And he’s not putting the effort. If it’s draining, it’s draining and you have to make a decision. Whether he wants to continue, you can, you know, it’s three wheels and individual can decide what a man or a woman can decide.
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They want to keep pouring, pouring, pouring out of their best friend all the time and getting nothing back. It’s not true. There is personally I have done it. Yeah, there is
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That. They’re both trying. Just one is better at it. The other one keeps falling more. That’s all. So, you know, that’s where the forgiving more comes in.
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One is better at it. No, no, no, no. That, that, that that’s the excuse. I’m better at it. I was no, no, no. You can try Joseph. <inaudible> don’t get me wrong.
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Corinne. I’m saying they both give it their best effort. They both tried just as hard, except one is good about not faltering back. And the other one makes mistakes all the time. Right. You know, but it’s not that the other person isn’t trying, it’s just that the other person’s better. Yeah. You know, self-discipline I guess,
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Well, let me say something to you in him. Let me say something to you in it. Once what happens is that we also need to recognize the relationship because some people are not meant to be together. Oh, ever Leanne, Boris, or whoever was involved. <inaudible> we got, maybe we are just meant to be friends. We know I’m sure people who were married about it was, I know they’re the best of friends better than when they were married. Sometimes it’s not meant to be together with that individual. You’re not meant to be in a relationship, but you’re meant to be best friends. You’re meant to be business partners. People who were married before, but they are very good at business partners.
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So you have to really evaluate the type of relationship you’re having at home best use or best you and interrupt. We live with each other. There’s nothing wrong with saying no, we’re not put together as opposed to one-on-one, but we are good as friends. We are good at business class.
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Yes. That’s when you’re willing to let go. That’s when you find no more reason to continue going, that’s when you feel like you deserve better. But yeah, I have to admit, I set myself aside and I don’t like to believe that I deserve better because the person that I’m with deserves better as well. And wow. We’re usually both guilty. There’s no one sided thing.
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No, no. Yeah. So you have only one minute left.
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So really quick, better communication skills man or woman. And one minute fun question.
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Yes. Let me hear that question again. Let me see.
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I believe have better Omar, effective communication skills, men or women. Fun question. I believe they have different ways of communicating.
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Oh my God. I don’t want to take sides. I think I don’t, I’m not taking sides. Both male and female have good communication skills. We just need to take the time to understand each other men process things differently. It is a fact scientifically proven and a woman processing differently. We, as women will say things as men will be like, what are you saying? It just takes patience. It just takes patience. It takes on the family.
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Men are more factual. Men are more factual, like mathematics science, where women are more emotional. You know, they put a little bit more heart that’s right. And aren’t both things just as important, I would say,
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Yeah, there are, and this is what makes the world go wrong. This is what makes life interesting. Intriguing. You know, this is what helps us to be who we are. And as we look to be a better version of ourselves and learn to understand others because things are different. <inaudible> yeah. If you’re all emotional, unfortunately
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Where at the end of their show. But thank God that can guide us, but other, because otherwise we’d be lost. But we want to say thank you to our wonderful guests. Corinne LaFont Corinne LaFond Oh, please write more information on hurricane. Be found on LaFond and associates.com and Corinne. Thank you very much. And God bless you. Have a beautiful day.
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Here’s some ideas. Thank you.
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And thank you to our producer today, Beth Ann, and the truth protector for being with us, making the show sound good and making the music possible. Thanks to the Christian card guy, Robby Dilmore for his continuing guidance and love his shelves. Now let’s pray a prayer for better communication. Dear Lord, we pray for husbands and wives. So often the communication in marriage is a catalyst for arguments. We pray for better and more effective communication between spouses may your Holy spirit anoint each of us so that we respond to each other in love.
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Grace and kindness made the tone of her voices represent the respect we have for each other. We also pray our body language would be respectful and appropriate. So often we reveal our frustrations non-verbally and that also stores negative negativity in the relationship, help us to be patient understanding and full of wisdom. As we communicate with our spouses and jesus’ name, amen and happy Thanksgiving to everyone, please, let’s be thankful to God every day, besides this one holiday.
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