Heart-wrenching, yet inspirational!
I enjoyed this memoir immensely.
What exactly is it which helps people to persevere through dark and challenging times? When the world seems as if it is upside down and filled with absolute anguish and grief. This situation will drive many people to their knees, with no hope of ever getting back up again. However, there are others who will not only rise- but actually grow stronger. With all the odds stacked against them, they still manage to survive and thrive. Instead of succumbing and capitulating to the heartbreaking circumstances, they do the exact opposite. In her book Love is the Answer, God is the Cure, Aimee Cabo Nikolov provides a virtual case study for just such a scenario. For those readers who may be seeking an inspirational read which explores the power of love and faith… this could very well be the book for you!
The main body of the memoir is focused upon the trials and tribulations of the author, Aimee Cabo Nikolov. She shares the main events of her life in a frank, open and very intense fashion. It is a graphic and raw account of her life which is seen through her own eyes.
The memoir opens on a highly-spirited note as Aimee meets her eventual husband while on a holiday. He is the epitome of everything which the other significant males in her life have not been to this point…kind, understanding and respectful. This loving relationship is juxtaposed with the dark and horrific reality of her past. Having experienced childhood sexual abuse at the hands of her stepfather and the other various men in her life, Aimee finds herself fighting her parents in a highly publicized court battle. Denying all culpability, her parents try everything they can to depict Aimee as troubled and unstable. This is truly the nightmare of any abuse survivor as Aimee is virtually forced to relive her tortuous experiences.
Nevertheless, her difficulties do not end there. She also had to manage poverty, drug addiction, abuse and a very nasty custody battle over her daughter with an estranged ex-husband. Add to all of this the fact that Aimee had to work as an escort to survive, and almost saw her daughter murdered by a tenant, and you are able to perceive the true depth and appalling nature of the obstacles she has struggled to overcome. The question which then arises is how can one person possibly hope to survive such struggles and persevere through what appear to be insurmountable odds? In truth, that is really what this memoir is all about.
Throughout all of the turmoil which Aimee had to endure, it has been her faith in God which has seen her through. That has been the great equalizer. As an illustration of the true depth of her belief, each chapter in the book begins with a prayer. This certainly helps the reader understand how someone can undergo such a tragic and excruciatingly painful experience and still be able to see the positive and beauty in life. This is a very powerful message which will certainly resonate with the vast majority of readers.
The writing in the book is also quite crisp and clear. Apart from the actual subject matter, it is a relatively easy read as the ideas flow into one another quite well. There is also a great balance of despair and faith. As readers, we are able to feel Aimee’s pain along with her- but also get to experience her new sense of hope and joy. This balance works exceedingly well and helps to keep the reader glued to the pages.
Since this book is written in the first-person, we get to know the various characters through Aimee’s eyes. This in turn means that our understanding and view of many different individuals is pretty much in line with the author’s perspective. It could certainly be argued that this in turn generates somewhat flat and unreliable characters. However, the nature of a personal memoir is to get into the author’s mind in order to better understand their motivations, perceptions, thoughts and emotions. I believe this to be exceptionally well done in this book as it all appears to be authentic, genuine and quite raw. Aimee Cabo Nikolov did not hold anything back in this book!
Overall I enjoyed this memoir immensely. I found it to be heart-wrenching… yet very inspirational. My hope is that it provides further healing to a very strong woman, and also hope to many others who may be suffering under similar circumstances. I highly recommend this book to adult audiences only as there are some very graphic scenes.
Reviewed by Carol Hoyer for Reader Views
“Love Is The Answer God Is The Cure” by Aimee Cabo Nikolov is the very tragic and at the same time very inspirational story of a woman who not only survived but prevailed against all odds. I don’t know if many individuals would be able to endure what Aimee did and still live to tell about it. Her story of abuse, drugs, poverty and neglect is sadly one that happens all too often in our world today.
As a former psychologist, this unbelievable horror, even for me, was unfathomable. As in Aimee’s story, it often happens in our own families and backyard. I applaud the author for having the strength to share her story so others might find their own strength to go on, and also for utilizing her faith to eventually find love and hope.
The author’s story was in all major media outlets in Miami for almost five years. There were those who wouldn’t believe her very descriptive accounts of sexual abuse by her step-father, friend and other family members. Her mother denied any abuse emotional, verbal, physical or sexual by her or her husband. Readers will be stunned at how easily family members turned against Aimee and her sister Michelle. In one foster home, the husband, a detective, raped her while his wife was out of the house.
My daughter lived in an abusive relationship like this for seven years, and like many readers, I asked, why? There is no one answer to that question. Abusers are very cunning. I am truly amazed at how well Aimee was able to survive mentally and physically with all she endured. All I can say is “Good for you, Aimee.”
This devastating true story is very graphic, so I do caution readers early on. But I don’t think she could have written it any other way. Each chapter begins with a prayer which shows the love and strength she has in her faith. I chose to read this book a little at a time, as I found it to be overwhelming to read all at once.
The author has written with honesty and passion, and above all else, has given readers hope if they or someone they know is experiencing this type of situation. Her story educates readers about abuse and family neglect and is truly inspirational. Hopefully, it will provide readers with a better insight into those who are in this position and how, most of all, we should not judge.
I highly recommend “Love Is The Answer God Is The Cure” by Aimee Cabo Nikolov for all individuals working in the professional field, family members, and women over the age of 14.
Just the title caught my attention I was intrigued. The Facebook page for the book signing event came up as a suggestion Love is the Answer God is the Cure by Aimee Cabo Nikolov, and I decided to click. Immediately I wanted to know more about the author. I also agree that God has the cure for many struggles we go through and that hanging on to his promises will get you through most problems.
Aimee Cabo Nikolov, a Cuban American writer right here from Miami, Florida. Just published her first book. Love is the Answer God is the Cure, an intimate memoir about overcoming very difficult circumstances through faith.
It’s a story about how Aimee and her sister were victims of sexual abuse, even making headlines for five years deemed as “The case from hell”. The case pitted Aimee and her sister against her parents who denied any knowledge of the abuse going on.
The memoir exalts God who gave Aimee the courage and love to persevere in spite of what she had gone through. From court battles, to poverty, abuse and addiction Aimee Cabo Nikolov is a true survivor! She shares her story so others can also know we serve a loyal God that we can call upon to help us through very difficult times and circumstances.
I had the chance to have a video conference with Aimee Cabo Nikolov who is quite interesting. It was not easy getting the book published, the title actually having been rejected. Yet this is a story that needs to be read especially in our current world. As a woman she exudes tremendous grace, humility and wisdom. As a writer she opens the mind of the reader to follow her through her personal experiences the highs and the lows of her story.
Here are some questions I asked to get a better sense of who she was and what her book meant to her:
What views would you say your memoir offers on God, how can your own faith help a non-believer?
“Anyone that reads my book will understand how unconditional God’s love is for all of us. I was a single mother for eight years, yet still prayed through all my struggles. I just always kept coming back to God. Now happily married to the love of my life, I find myself living answered prayer!”
How did the people in your life growing up influenced your personal relationship with God?
“My mother used to read the Bible to us, she was a devout Catholic. So it was church every Sunday, First Communion, everything we do as Catholics, and of course exercising the values that Christ teaches.”
Why do you feel “Love is the Answer God is the Cure is on perfect timing? Can your memoir Love is the Answer God is the Cure be applicable to events and situations we may be facing today?
“Yes I feel it can be applicable especially in the world we live today. Such as the metoo movement, the sexual abuse going on in the Catholic church, how it lacks transparency. God has taught me a lot of lessons in life. Most importantly I’ve learned a lot from Jesus’ unconditional love that conquers all.”
What other projects are you currently involved in?
“Right now I am starting to create awareness on #metoo for child abuse victims. I also host a radio show on The Biz form 2-3pm on Fridays. Also in Spanish “La Cura” on Saturdays from 12:30pm-1:30pm on Radio Luz.
Where can we find your book?
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